Letting the other half see 'everything'

An average relationship today lasts only 2 years and 9 months.

Umbreen Ali
By Umbreen Ali
Columnist
February 21, 2014, 4:10 pm

An average relationship today lasts only 2 years and 9 months.

However, it takes about 7.5 months to fully relax in front of ones partner. Which, of course includes going to the loo with the door open.

Now in an Asian household that poses many grave problems.

In our own survey of Asian people, 98% of those interviewed thought that going to the bathroom in front of their partners veered onto haram territory.

One woman said, "We're not supposed to talk when we are in the bathroom anyway. It’s makroooh.

“My husband constantly wanders in. I hate it. And then he gets annoyed when I lock the door. It's bad enough that he leaves skid marks on the toilet and in his underwear.

I have to wash his clothes separately as they become napaak. But I can't stand him thinking it's okay to invade my privacy.”

Another woman said, "To be honest, I don't mind if my husband sees me on the toilet. I get him to fill the lota for me if I need a second round. It's convenient really. But I won't let the kids walk in. That's where I draw the line.”

 

One man grumbled,

“My wife always does her threading in front of me, and walks around the house with bleach on her face. 

"She is quite happy burping in front of me over dinner. But she starts nagging the moment I walk in on her in the bathroom. I don’t get it. I don’t mind if she sees me on the toilet.”

Another recently married woman us, “I come from quite a conservative family. My husband understands that, and he always respects my decision to lock the bathroom door. I have never seen my siblings even half naked before.

“But after I got married I got a massive shock to the system. My father-in-law walks around the house with his towel tied around his waist.

“I know he is my mehram, but that is too much.

“And he never locks the bathroom door. Once I walked in on him by mistake. I was so shocked to see him sitting there with his shalwar draped around his ankles. 

"He very calmly told me to leave and just close the door on the way out. That’s when I told my husband we have to move out.”

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